This is not a lesson in Conflict management. And it most certainly isn't a lesson in assertiveness. It's just the way I'm programmed. Given a choice to choose from say 3 different phones, I would probably pick one which I like easily, but in the same situation where two others were also told to pick their favourite phone at the same time, I have a tendency sometimes (not always) to not make the first choice, to take the back seat.
I was thinking this, and ofcourse many reasons and justifications popped up, like
Lack of confidence?
Avoiding Conflict?
I seriously contemplated these aspects in such a situation, and it could probably be any or both of these, but I don't believe so. And no, I'm not in denial or defensive. Hear me out. :)
Generally, when I'm not comfortable or relatively unaware about a situation, I prefer to err on the side of caution, and wait & see why people make the choice that they make. Yes, more often than not end up missing out on opportunities, but in the long run it evens out. In cases where I'm a little aware of the choice that I want to make, I usually end up with what I choose. Yep, I know this is what most people do in these situations, so why the heck am I writing about it?
Well, it still gets me pretty wound up when someone just takes it for granted that their choice is more important than others! So what, my first choice is secondary?
It most definitely is a pet peeve, a red flag, a no-no in my books.
I was thinking this, and ofcourse many reasons and justifications popped up, like
Lack of confidence?
Avoiding Conflict?
I seriously contemplated these aspects in such a situation, and it could probably be any or both of these, but I don't believe so. And no, I'm not in denial or defensive. Hear me out. :)
Generally, when I'm not comfortable or relatively unaware about a situation, I prefer to err on the side of caution, and wait & see why people make the choice that they make. Yes, more often than not end up missing out on opportunities, but in the long run it evens out. In cases where I'm a little aware of the choice that I want to make, I usually end up with what I choose. Yep, I know this is what most people do in these situations, so why the heck am I writing about it?
Well, it still gets me pretty wound up when someone just takes it for granted that their choice is more important than others! So what, my first choice is secondary?
It most definitely is a pet peeve, a red flag, a no-no in my books.
1 comment:
Primary, secondary.....whatever the choices are , have a fantastic birthday. - Manoj
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