Yesterday's blog

I’ve blogged enough about the choices and how it matters! Yep, I agree with whatever I’ve written (it’s 100, so gotta be true!). Still there’s a feeling of obsessing over a particular phase of life and focusing on it in detail. The part that matters is sure this, but there’s more to life than just thinking about choices. Here I go, having a different opinion on myself. In the process of talking about things that I know, things I think I know, and things that I don’t know and doesn’t want to know, I left out one important ingredient - The thought process. These thoughts don’t occupy my head everyday, it flits in and out occasionally, and sometimes I hold on to these, and sometimes to others.


Education or lack of thereof, experience, and some lessons that my parents have always insisted that I imbibe in my life, all add up to life lessons till now
(1) Respect elders! They are what they are today because of the paths that they chose to take. They have their own set of reasons, opportunities and circumstances which determined their course of life; it’s not for me to judge them based on that. Besides, some of the best lessons on life I have learnt are because of looking at elders with that respect. Every time there is a clash of thought between the ways I see it and the way others see it, I would like to ‘engage’ them through arguments to modify or solidify my perception of things.
(2) Learn! Every day, every minute there is something happening, life is happening, not just mine. By just keeping my eyes, ears and mind open I have benefited in understanding how people are, and what values they cherish. Mouth needs to be shut, but unfortunately my parents didn’t insist enough on this, so I keep rattling a lot of nonsense as a course of habit. Not that I’m complaining – sometimes when I say things out loud is when I realize that this is the output that I get when certain ingredients are fed into my brain, so I learn from that too!! Whew! Got to be consistant!!
(3) Constant activity! Only constant for me in my life is now. I realize that I make far too many mistakes, & I could either spend a lifetime making & obsessing over them, or make things at double speed when I am still agile, and then choose to slow down at times when I feel is right. Life matters, but at the pace that I want it to be, not at the pace which others deem fit for me. So I keep pushing & sometimes pausing, to keep learning, to keep making mistakes, to keep moving on, to making newer mistakes.
(4) Be all inclusive by default. i.e. don’t choose, just be and let be. This I ‘earned’ through the process of being always the quiet guy, my way reaching out to ‘like minded’ folks. This is a funny phenomenon, I can’t quite place where I know that someone’s going to be a good friend to me or not. Generally I estimate the kind of ‘space’ that a stranger needs to make them comfortable and rarely breach that….. I’ll save this for another blog. Point is I don’t write off someone based on first impressions, most of the time I form an opinion (as I mentioned in Pet Peeves) but don’t close the door.
(5) Know the good side and the bad side! (It was something that I learnt about a decade back). I might have said this before, but yeah, I believe that forming opinions about someone based on one encounter is not something that I prefer to do. I tend to add experiences of knowing, seeing and moving with the person to fill their character (most of the time clouded by my bad judgment). It all goes for a toss if they upset this stack of dominoes. But my ‘fuzzy logic’ is that the longer it takes, people tend to get more comfortable. They then start being more consistent with their character. Then the ball is in my court to take it or leave it, & I’m fine as long I have space to be myself as well!

All of the above can be manipulated to anyone’s advantage, but then that’ll be a lesson in itself!